This week my dad has been in my thoughts a lot. Maybe it's because my mum had to tell me that he has been moved to a new care home since his illness seems to be progressing, but really I think it's because I love and miss this man very much.
Alzheimer's is strange, and to the family around it, can seem a somewhat cruel disease. Although I am perhaps somewhat protected,since I live so far away, it makes me sad to know that my dad has wonderful qualities that my husband will never see for himself. I am disappointed that he doesn't have the chance to be the fabulous grandfather I know he would be for Amelia.
Tonight on the way home from work, I listened to my Bob Dylan CD, it helped me feel close to him, and I am not going to lie, brought tears to my eyes, as I remembered listening to this music as a young child at my dad's home. At the time, I didn't appreciate the music, but now, it brings so much comfort.
My dad was a story teller and honestly, I am sure there are things I believe today that are not really true, but I don't care, it's because of him that I love the Flower Fairies. It's because of him that the Disney song "when you wish upon a star" will always be important to me, as I remember him singing it to me every time he called. He did not have much in the way of fashion sense, and I vividly remember holding his hand as a child, he was wearing a purple suit (complete with waistcoat), and his brown cowboy boots, I didn't care how funny he might have looked, he was my dad and I loved him and most importantly I knew that he loved me.
Whilst I know that I grieve the man that my dad was, I also appreciate and hold on tightly to all that he gave me, after all he has given me so much, he is the best. I miss talking to him on the phone, seeing him and hearing his voice. I often feel frustrated being so far away, feeling helpless and even guilty for not being there to help, but one thing is for sure, I love this man with all my heart and always will!